Before taking the 4 Skills Workshop, I realized that I heard very little of what others were saying and thought I was being attacked by other people most of the time. Now I feel like the light has been turned on. People at work tell me that I’m much more present and care more about others than I had before. Take the 4 Skills Workshop! It’s like nothing you’ve ever experienced before. I don’t think there is one person on this planet that doesn’t need these skills.
Carmen, Supervisor, Community Interface Services
Before learning the 4 Skills, I was often surprised by other people. I wasn't connecting to them as they genuinely are, only as I wanted them to be. I often took things personally, like whatever offense or issue was my fault. After taking the workshop, I have little to no slide into others' responsibilities. I know how to keep myself whole while still relating effectively at work, especially during conflict. I have new ways of doing things that bring more energy, lightness, and joy. My life's more peaceful!
Maggie, Data Analyst, Department of Veterans Affairs
Taking the 4 Skills Workshop completely changed everything I knew about relating to others. At the beginning of the course, I couldn't get past personalizing and internalizing everything about conversations. I realized I needed to stop trying to predict and brace for whatever the other person had to say, so stepping away from that bias was liberating. After learning the 4 Skills, I've got a solid footing in difficult conversations no matter what’s coming at me. While working with Pluck, I felt valued and not judged. It was an incredible personal journey—take the workshop, you won’t regret it. My entire worldview has changed!
Dave, Commander, United States Navy
Before learning the 4 Skills, I really wasn't listening effectively. I was getting stuck, repeating the same patterns of ineffective communication. Now I have a deeper level of understanding of those around me that's made me more effective at work and home. I have a renewed sense of engagement. I am more present in my communication. I pay more attention to understanding what is being said, rather than what words are being used. I have developed new capacities that open a world of possibilities.
Nancy, Safety Manager, VA San Diego Healthcare System
Before taking the workshop, I was setting aside a responsibility to myself, burying my wants and needs to prioritize the needs of others. This came at a great expense in my ability to grow because I was denying my true self. Now I have a new level of self-awareness that allows me to recognize when I am giving up my sovereignty. The skills provided me with tools to make better choices for myself and for how I choose to relate to others. The skills are essential tools and benefit all aspects of my life where I relate to people. I’m able to get at my own struggle instead of putting it on other people.
Stephanie, Registered Nurse, UCSD Medical Center
With the tools I acquired during the 4 Skills Workshop, I find myself more capable of navigating interactions in the workplace that formerly presented themselves as daunting challenges. No matter the emotional charge of a situation, I am now equipped to both accept the message being sent and maintain my integrity. The workshop provided a haven to pause, look at myself, and consider what I was doing to block my way. It was an ideal environment for cultivating an awareness of my habitual patterns of interacting with others. And there was nothing abstract about it. I walked out with a set of immediately applicable skills that changed the way I relate day to day.
James, San Diego
It’s difficult to imagine and look back at myself before learning the 4 Skills. I was creating a path for myself without having an understanding of who I am and how I want to be. Now I decide how I want to show up, have the skills to relate in any given situation, and make decisions from a state of self-awareness and responsibility. I can remain engaged in charged environments and interactions. I am able to relate in a manner that keeps me feeling good and intact, and when finishing an interaction, I have a better understanding of the other and where I am with a given topic. I’ve had a shift in my concept of responsibility from external to internal. I feel light, joy, and whole.
Erin, Senior Specialist, Sharp Grossmont Hospital