Any way you slice it, it’s contempt

Any way you slice it, it’s contempt

A few months back I wrote a post about the nature of contempt, and let’s just say it garnered more than a bit of snarkity, snark, snark. You know the kind of sarcastic FB comments I’m talking about, right? The thing here is that these comments weren’t from internet trolls. Nope. They were from everyday folks like you and me. Let’s talk about the reaction of sarcasm for a minute. Sarcasm is a no to whatever is being said and a move to distance ourselves from something that makes us uncomfortable. Sarcasm is contempt + humor. It’s a culturally acceptable…

The Roles We Play In Conflict

The Roles We Play In Conflict

Ever wonder what it is we do in response to conflict? Not what we feel—fear, trepidation, excitement—but what we do, actively, in the face of a conflict in which we are directly or indirectly involved? I am and likely always will be fascinated by the breadth and depth of our decision-making capacity when faced with a difficult situation. I am always in observation mode when trouble starts. Maybe it’s the qualitative researcher in me, but we are some seriously fascinating creatures when tempers flare. What I’ve learned over the years is that there are as many responses to discord as…

You Cannot Oppose That Which You Participate In

You Cannot Oppose That Which You Participate In

There’s a particular type of commitment we make that I want to talk about today, and that is a commitment to what you know. It is called a declaration of universal intent. A declaration of universal intent is a formal statement applicable in all cases. If you’d like to read about the entire process of making a declaration of universal intent, you can do so here. I recently made a commitment to the following—you cannot oppose that which you participate in. It is a declaration of universal intent. I challenge you to find a time when the statement doesn’t bear…

The Winding Road to What You Know

The Winding Road to What You Know

There’s often a winding twisted road to change especially the kind of change that produces a lasting shift in who we are and how we make our way in the world. This winding road is especially characteristic of movement toward the kind of commitment I want to discuss here—a commitment to what you know, also called a declaration of universal intent. A declaration of universal intent is a formal statement applicable in all cases. Ask yourself what it is you know? Ask yourself what it is you know that you are willing to be responsible for? Then ask yourself what…

If it sticks, it’s yours.

If it sticks, it’s yours.

Since the election I’ve been making some pretty bold committed statements about the state of our republic and rendering some accusations. You see I take this whole democracy thing pretty seriously. Not as seriously as some, of course, but it is no small thing in our household. We have a history that is steeped in the American Dream. A history that is one of commitment and sacrifice. So yes, this election meant something to me, as does every election. We celebrate the republic and cherish our participation in this democracy. It is a duty and a responsibility. Does my family…